Notes from Hollyweird
Mackenzie Phillips seems to be confused as to the definition of the word “consensual.” When she came out with her book, “High on Arrival,” a month or two ago, she said that she had had a consensual sexual relationship with her father, which began when she was 19 and lasted for several years.
It began on her wedding night. She’d taken a lot of drugs and was passed out. She woke up to someone, who was not the groom, having sex with her. It was her father.
In her book, she writes that the affair continued after that, with her consent, until she became pregnant and didn’t know who the father was. She terminated the pregnancy, but never slept with her father again.
Now, she says it was not exactly consensual.
“As I was writing the book, I thought, this word, it kept sitting wrong with me, but I used it for lack of a better word, and since then I’ve been schooled by thousands of incest survivors all across the world that there really is no such thing as consensual incest due to the inherent power a parent has over a child,” she told Joy Behar in a recent TV interview.
Sorry, Mackenzie, I respectfully disagree. You were 19 when the affair began. It was years before you ended it. Sure, it was an affair between a manipulative older man and a less experienced younger girl. Sure, it was lousy parenting on John Phillips’ part (although I remain a fan of his music. Sorry, feminists.) But it was consensual because you were an adult and you gave your consent.
You weren’t victimized nearly as bad as a lot of those incest survivors who sent you e-mails.
I believe it was Oprah who said (and I’m paraphrasing here –like I said, I’m not even sure of the source) “O.K., now we know why we’re all messed up – what are we going to do about it?
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